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- Positive Traits:
Capable, Caretaker, Caring, Competent, Devoted, Friendly, Inspiring, Loving,
Nurturing, Practical, Sweet, Trustworthy, Warm
- Negative Traits:
Covert, Domineering, Doormat, Enslaved, Frustrated, Martyred, Manipulating,
Overworked, Self-Sacrificing, Subservient, Victimized
The Server is naturally inspired to make the world a better
place to live in. He derives his primary satisfaction by heartfelt concern for
the quality of life. His foremost fulfillment is to make things more comfortable
in a material sense for himself and those around him.
This Role was originally called "Slave", but this
word gives a connotation to the Role which is not necessarily valid. In the
Negative Pole of -Bondage, a Server can be like a slave in the sense that he
feels as if he is carrying the world as a burden on his shoulders. He may feel
like he is a lowly drudge who is yoked to a menial job. He may feel that his
whole life is filled with one obligatory chore after another, just like a slave
in past cultures. But the Positive Pole of Service is one of helping, caring,
nurturing, sustaining, attending, aiding, and consoling. Of the Roles, the
Server would probably be considered the most "feminine" in our
culture, because of these "mothering" qualities.
Of the Roles, the Server is the most just plain human. There
are more Servers than any other Role. They are common man, your everyday person.
Servers are the "backbone" of society. Metaphorically speaking, they
are the back of the body of mankind, bearing up the burdens of the
world to make it a better world. Servers identify with mankind because they feel
for the sufferings of others — and mankind does indeed suffer. Servers are
more aware of this than other Roles. When they manifest their highest nature,
Servers want to ease this suffering by taking the problems upon themselves, and
doing what is necessary to alleviate the pain. They are neither too proud to ask
for help for themselves if they need it nor to give aid to others in need.
Servers true to their essence will give "the shirt off their back" if
requested by a needy person. They are normally very charitable toward others,
even if they themselves are not well off.
And usually Servers are not all that "well off".
Since they feel their own commonality and ordinariness, they are not likely to
desire to rise to prominence or wealth. They normally feel undeserving of
riches. (If they do gain financial success, they may very likely feel guilty
about it, and give away much to humanitarian or charitable causes. After all,
are there not so many others who need it more than they?) For this reason, it
can be said that Servers lack ambition as a general rule. In the more base or
lowly instances, Servers are the most likely of the Roles to be on the receiving
end of welfare or other public assistance. This is partly because of the lack of
ambition to excel as mentioned above, and partly because a Server is more likely
to be willing to subsist on the meager income that welfare provides. Servers
feel meager about themselves, and they can live in a meager situation. Paucity
and moderation is part of their nature, rather than abundance and excess.
This scarcity applies not only to financial matters, but also
to other aspects of living. For instance, Servers are often prone to forego the
fancier pleasures of life. They tend to stick to the simple pleasures of modest
home and average family. They are usually very serious about life, and so do not
easily laugh off the problems they face. Because of their inherently domestic
nature, travel is normally not a big need of theirs -they prefer to stay with
the familiar and the homey.
According to Michael, Servers make marvelous grandmothers. I
know one such and it is a fact. When at her home, she is always solicitous of my
welfare. Did I get enough to eat? Is the temperature of the house OK? Is the
couch comfortable enough or do I need another throw pillow? Are there enough
covers on the bed? And so on. Servers regard it as their duty to look after
others. They see the people of the world as their honored guests with themselves
as the hosts. They want to raise the comfort level of those who come under their
care, and in a more general sense they would like to raise the standard of
living of the world.
Servers are on the ordinal axis of inspiration, operating in
the universe in a downward motion, so to speak, in the sense of quality. That
doesn't mean that Servers seek lower quality, at least not in the Positive Pole
of this Process. But it does mean they seek humanitarian and worldly values as
distinct from psychological and spiritual values — so called
"higher" values. Servers value the physical amenities and creature
comforts of life. This motion is opposed to the upward motion toward the
supernatural. That is, the Server identifies strongly with humanity, whereas the
Priest (see next section) identifies strongly with the transcendent qualities of
The Server's Natural Overleaves
Servers want to eliminate the superfluous and get right down
to the things that are truly essential — the things that make life really
worthwhile. To a Server this usually means things like home and family —
domestic qualities. A Server feels more "at home" at home than anywhere else in
the world. What could be more important and necessary than this? This is what a
Server values. Like people in the
Reserve Mode, Servers
typically hold themselves back from exaggerated, extreme, or wild behavior,
feelings, or thoughts. They do not find this becoming. Rather, they seek to do
their humanitarian good works in a meek and quiet way, not for praise or show.
Self-Deprecation Feature makes a person view himself as humble and poor,
more so the Server Role. Rarely do Servers seek to gain notoriety in the world.
Since they view themselves as just plain people, the idea of being outstanding
or great doesn't feel right to them. Like the
Stoic, a Server feels that life is
more or less fated to be the way it is, and there is not much use getting bent
out of shape about it. Life is a bitch, but so what? We are all in the same
boat. We just have to make the best that we can of the bad situation we find
ourselves in. An
Emotionally Centered person has emotional reactions to
everything in his life, and the Server likewise is attuned to the feeling aspect
of existence. What is the quality of this thing he is experiencing? The
Emotional Center often induces a person to cry about things, and the Server is
also in touch with the pains of life, and seeks to comfort the suffering or
eliminate the anguish. Servers can commiserate with the agony that is in the
world more than any other Role, because they are also in touch with their own
It is because of their humanness and sensitivity to the
suffering of others that Servers are so good at the healing profession. This is
where they feel they belong. This is where their inherent talent for comforting
others is best revealed and used to benefit mankind. The quintessential Server
occupation is medicine, in such careers as doctoring and nursing. The job here
is to make the physical body well again, to ease the pain, to comfort the sick,
to sustain the ailing, to dress the wounds, to nurture the ill.
Other suitable occupations for Servers are cook, waiter or
waitress. Here is another excellent way to serve mankind in a material sense,
caring for his physical needs in terms of food. Another meaningful career is
retail sales in something like clothing or household goods, and for the same
reasons listed above — these items are valuable for making life more
comfortable in the domestic realm. Thus many Server females find their niche in
society as housewives or homemakers. This is perfect for them as they normally
find children and homemaking genuinely fulfilling. Other appropriate jobs are
such things as social worker, maid, day care attendant, and public servant,
-anything that has to do with serving or helping the public as an attendant to
their physical needs, caring for their welfare or well-being. This is the
activity a Server does better than any other Role type. In whatever career a
Server finds himself, he will usually apply a measure of caring and assisting to
it. Servers regard and perform sex as a service also.
If there is a physical appearance that is common to most
Servers it would be that there is a plainness about them. They rarely give the
appearance that there is anything particularly outstanding about them. They do
not want to seem remarkable in the eyes of their fellow man. Even if they do
achieve some status in the world, one would not usually discern this by looking
at them. Even if they should dress fancy, their demeanor of commonness shows
nevertheless. Their spirit is meek and mild, and this shows in their facial
expression and the way they carry their bodies.
Because of their inherent humility, not many Servers rise to
prominence in the world, but some have that have been identified as Servers. For
instance, Mother Teresa and Queen Victoria.
-- Phill Wittmeyer
More About The Server
It has never been a secret in the spiritual community that service to others is the fastest road to evolution. It is of little surprise then that the role of Server comprises the highest percentage of the world's population.
Servers are practical, competent, and productive workers who perform a valuable service for us all -- they fulfill our needs. Placing the needs of others before their own, the Server takes care of us, and in so doing, starts a domino effect that honorably assists in meeting the needs for all of humanity.
Rarely seeking the limelight, Servers love to work behind the scenes and inspire us on a one to one level. They are charitable people who are quick to take on the problems of others if they feel it will ease any suffering. Generally reserved in nature, Servers are not prone to wild behavior or extreme exaggeration, instead seeking those "simple pleasures for simple folks." Historically the Server might have been best exemplified in the biblical quotation "the meek shall inherit the earth." But possibly the greatest tribute to the humble Server was accorded by the American composer, Aaron Copland, in his composition, "Fanfare for the Common Man."
Excelling in any of the service occupations, Servers make good doctors, nurses, teachers, diplomats, and have become indefatigable workers in the retail industry. Servers instinctively know they are gifted in the area of meeting the needs of others, and therefore can feel frustrated if they are not allowed to serve. There is a similarity with the King in the fact that Servers like to "control" a situation, or be in charge of how our needs should be met. It is not unusual then to see a Server adopt a "my way or the highway" attitude if they are not allowed to call the shots in situations related to their services. Frustrated Servers can become angry, or in worst case scenarios, highly manipulative or combative if they are not allowed to control what they feel they do best. In domestic settings, Servers will often secretly brood if their services are unappreciated, lending credence to the stereotypes of lonely, downtrodden housewives so often swept under the societal rug.
Generally sweet in nature and self-effacing in their work, Servers are somewhat disengaged when expressing emotional connections, choosing to demonstrate their love for us by doing things that once again, fulfill our needs. For anyone who has had a Server parent, they know that during childhood their creature comforts were lovingly provided; dental appointments were never forgotten; a favorite refreshment or candy bar was always waiting in the refrigerator after school; and despite heated objections, it was a given that we could expect parental escort to social events during those tumultuous adolescent years. Some of us might wish such parental restrictions had not been so rigidly enforced, and this leads to speculation regarding the percentage of children with Server parents who grew up later to have Stubbornness as a Chief Feature. Of course, there are other roles and combinations of overleaves that can contribute to the creation of the controlling parent, but control will always be an issue for the Server.
Another by-product of the Server parent is that excessive doting and attention can lead some children to grow up thinking their needs will always be met. The well intentioned Server can so effectively shield the child from the realities of the world that the child later struggles in adulthood when faced with issues of self-sufficiency and independence.
Regardless, it's important to cherish the Server for the well intentioned work they do, and try to avoid the natural inclination to take advantage of their services. Servers can easily start to feel like doormats after awhile, and with their unquestioning willingness to take of care of both our physical and spiritual needs, it is little wonder they have so often been victimized or enslaved by the occasionally less than scrupulous predators that enjoy preying on such noble intentions. Servers are beautiful beings that deserve much praise and gratitude for the wonderful contributions they give to society, and the world.
-- David Gregg
With Other Roles
Unless, of course, the overleaves or other elements of
personality abrade, servers are usually quite comfortable with other servers.
There is nothing very exciting about that combination, but servers do not tend
to seek excitement anyway.
Servers and artisans are a little better together than
scholars and artisans, because when artisans are off doing their own thing,
servers do not usually mind being temporarily ignored and supporting artisans
behind the scenes. This can be useful if artisans are focused on some intense
creativity. Also, artisans may be inspired to do better work in the creative
process by the solid support of servers.
Servers and warriors usually get along very well. Both
tend to have much endurance, and it is easy for servers to view warriors’ toil
as benefiting the common good, even in the military, if that jibes with the
servers’ political beliefs. Warriors tend to like servers because they see
servers as being down-to-earth and practical. Servers and warriors do not tend
to fight as much as warriors can with most of the other roles. Servers and
warriors are especially effective together as a team working together—for
example, a server doctor and a warrior nurse would probably be very effective
together in a high-stress situation. The higher the cardinality of the
relationship—in other words, the higher the number of the combination’s sum—the
more stress there tends to be in the relationship. Sometimes that can be
exciting and can make for a lot of energy, but it can sometimes be too much. In
a high-stress situation such as a hospital emergency room or a battle front, the
server-warrior combination, which adds up to only four, can be a calm center of
productive work. The server-artisan combination would even be more calm, but not
necessarily more productive.
Like scholars and artisans, scholars and servers tend to
lack overlap. This combination can also get a little bland—there is not that
much spice in servers either, although they often have a great deal of warmth. A
scholar-server alliance might be chosen when both want to rest from a lot of
stimulation or conflict, to have a safe harbor, to even be able to “zone out.”
Servers and sages can work quite well as long as the
servers are not too much “by-the-book” kinds of people; some servers are, and
sages do not tend to be—they like to play with the book, to stretch and expand
it, rather than adhere strictly to any sort of pattern. (Sage is the
five-position role, and the number five has a positive pole of expansion
(positive pole of number five.) Servers who are bureaucratic, who see going by
the book as what is best for the common good, tend to irritate sages to no
end—and vice versa. However, if the servers are not doing their negative pole in
that way, this is generally a good combination, because servers tend to be quite
willing to let sages have the spotlight. Artisans, who also work well with
sages, may or may not be willing to do that—they may just go off and do
something else. They will not tend to try to stop sages from being in the
spotlight, but servers are more likely to really listen and be supportive, fully
receiving the expression (positive pole of sage) of sages. Sages can be very
grateful for that. Also, sages are often heart people. They may be quite
intellectual and verbal, but they rarely become nearly as emotionally dry as
scholars can be. Servers in their positive pole can epitomize the good heart, so
servers and sages can love each other very deeply, in some ways more than
servers and priests, because both servers and priests tend to stay busy taking
care of other people. Servers might nurture priests, but priests might be out
taking care of three hundred other people. Although sages might be entertaining
three hundred other people, that is not as involving as the caretaking that
priests engage in.
Servers and priests are a very good combination, because
servers, like scholars, can absorb some of priests’ higher intensity. They also
share a quality of thriving on inspiration, so they can keep each other
inspired, something that priests and scholars cannot—priests can inspire
scholars, but scholars usually do not inspire priests very much, except perhaps
if some symbolic information is given that reminds priests of a higher
principle. Servers can inspire priests by their positive pole selflessness,
goodness, and open heart. Romantically, this combination works especially well
if priests are male and servers are female. If servers are male and they adhere
to cultural sex "sexual stereotypes" -role imprinting, they may feel threatened
by powerful female priests. Priests and servers think along similar lines, but
sometimes priests, being so preoccupied with higher concerns, are negligent of
the mundane in ways that kings, for example, rarely would be. (Kings notice if
the mundane is not done, although they may not do it themselves.) So in those
pairings the servers, usually comfortably, handle the mundane, often to the
relief of the priests.
This is probably the most comfortable pairing for kings.
Kings like to be served; they feel that it frees them to serve the masses
themselves. The seven and the one are two extremes, but in a sense they are
right next to each other, too, if you make a circle out of the seven numbers.
Kings serve in an exalted way—they serve the kingdom, looking at what is best
for the overall picture. They do not feel that they have time for the mundane.
That doesn’t mean that they are lazy; it just means that they are occupied in
other ways. So they like being served, and servers are generally thrilled to
serve a king. However, in some of these pairings, servers get the short end of
the stick. Kings can overwhelm and repress servers, which, of course, is not
growthful for either role. Kings need to appreciate and respect the value of the
service (positive pole of server) that servers render. Servers do not command
respect, and usually do not demand it, either. Ideally, they inspire it. But
they can be taken for granted, which is not to anyone’s benefit. It is hard for
any role to feel that it can add something to kings; they seem complete—they are
already the number seven role. But being in the number one position, servers are
the role that comes closest to being able to add something to kings.
-- Shepherd Hoodwin
From "The Journey of Your Soul"
Doris Day, Queen Elizabeth, Sally Field, Al Gore, jr., John
Kerry, Dalai Lama, Ray Liotta, Vladimer Putin, Susan Sarandon,
Wesley Snipes, John Steinbeck, Mother Teresa
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