BY PHILLIP WITTMEYER
Clarity and happiness constitute our personal
mental health, but of course our well-being also affects everyone we encounter.
Sharing these things with others is what love and Agape are all about. In this
division we discuss factors from the personality system that affect our
relationships with others — particularly with our significant other, our
To have as much intimacy as possible on as many
levels as possible is a drive in many people. On the other hand, some people do
not seek intimacy, even in their "intimate" relationships. They have
other things on their agendas. To them the following is irrelevant. If you are
among those who do want intimacy, please read on.
There is of course a continuum of intimacy from
zero to infinite, but for convenience I ignore the degrees of acquaintanceship
and distinguish three levels of intimacy. I call these "intimacy",
intimacy, and Intimacy. The level of intimacy is not the same thing as the level
of closeness or involvement. My experience has been that you can only just get
so "intimate" or intimate or Intimate with people — some people more
so, some people less so. There seems to be an approximate upper limit that
depends on the degrees of Clarity and Affinity in their personal selves. Clarity
you already know about. "Affinity" refers to how similar they are and
how much attraction and how little repulsion they experience in True
At the first and lowest level, you are unable
to see the other person much deeper than their False Personality, no matter how
long you are around them. I refer to this as "intimacy" in quotation
marks, since it is false intimacy, based on False Personality. There is not much
if any contact with the True Personality or Essence of the other person.
Offenses often accumulate and keep the relationship strained. Misunderstandings
abound. Pretense is common. Garbage keeps them apart. The reason for this is
that Clarity and Affinity are both low. This category often includes the people
you work with, for instance. You may get to "know" them very
"well" — superficially — but you do not have enough in common with
them to relate to them deeply. Most families function at this level of
"intimacy", unfortunately. That is why so many of them are unhappy or
they fail. This level of "intimacy" does not satisfy most people. Its
highest expression is tolerance.
The second level is intimacy — with no
quotation marks. It takes place primarily in the True Personality. For the most
part there is openness, acceptance, appreciation, and happiness in each other's
presence. Rarely do people at this level have to explain themselves to each
other. They drop their usual barriers and pretenses. The relationship exists
because it is mostly effortless and enjoyable. Close and enduring marriages,
companionships, partnerships, and friendships exist at this level. Usually the
two have a strong Affinity in True Personality. They overlook each other's
garbage. The level of trust is such that it is impossible to offend each other.
If the Affinity is low, then high Clarity must function in its place to achieve
this level of intimacy. This level of intimacy satisfies most people. Its
highest expression is personal love.
The third and highest level is Intimacy, with a
capital "I". This most often occurs between those who have a high
degree of Affinity and a high degree of Clarity and operate in their higher
Centers. In a truly Intimate relationship, the innermost being of the two is
revealed and nourished. The two people know each other deeply and fully. They
see each other for who they really are — Essence. They see beyond personality,
False and True. Simply stated, Intimacy is Clarity in a relationship. This
Intimacy is the same thing as Agape — Essence Contact with another person.
This level of Intimacy is known primarily to saints and mystics, but is also
experienced occasionally by others.
From here on in this division, we will discuss
mostly intimacy, rather than Intimacy or "intimacy", since intimacy
involves the True Personality, of which the Traits in the personality system are
a part. I will discuss two major factors in achieving intimacy: Clarity and
For many people, there is nothing more
rewarding than an intimate relationship. They expect the most happiness in this
relationship. Any two people who are garbage-free can achieve intimacy (perhaps
even Intimacy) quickly — and experience the happiness that goes with this. The
problem is that none of us has perfect Clarity, and insofar as we lack Clarity,
we will not recognize intimacy and we will not experience happiness in a
relationship. People who lack Clarity go wrong in many ways. They are attracted
to factors of Maya — money, power, glamour, status, romance, lust, intrigues,
thrills and adventures — rather than to true intimacy. This causes suffering
and misunderstanding. They violate and manipulate the other person rather than
Intense experiences tend to reveal our garbage,
and close relationships often provide this intensity. For many people, the
thought of "intimacy" brings up fears because of what they have
suffered in past "intimate" relationships. The suffering is a result
of garbage exposed by the "intimacy", because our "intimate"
relationships function at the level of False Personality. When a measure of
Clarity is achieved, intimacy can actually diminish what garbage remains. When
garbage comes to the surface in an intense and intimate situation, wise and
understanding people will recognize this experience as an opportunity for
garbage reduction and greater intimacy. "Other-observation" is the key
for dealing graciously with other people's garbage, just as
"self-observation" is with your own. This is commonly called
"nonattachment" or "non-identification". It is not
detachment. You are involved and concerned with, but not identified with and
lost in, the garbage. This is a very important principle: be vigilant for
intimacy without attachment, manipulation, pretense or expectation. Otherwise it
is not intimacy. It is just "intimacy".
The degree of Clarity is a big factor in who
associates with whom. The reason for this is that it is uncomfortable to be
closely involved with those of unequal Clarity. The negativity of people of
lesser Clarity is often an "energy drain" to those of significantly
greater Clarity. This is just another way of saying that psychologically healthy
people gravitate to healthy people, and sick people gravitate to sick people.
Clarity is the most important factor in
experiencing intimacy, but the potential for intimacy also involves Affinity.
The following factors of Affinity do not constitute "specifications"
for a successful intimate relationship. The specification for such a
relationship is the recognition by two people who have some Clarity that
intimacy already exists, and that it is their choice to pursue the experience of
it. Therefore, none of the following factors of Affinity are necessary for
intimacy to occur. If all of them are present it does not guarantee intimacy.
However, the more of these factors there are, the more likely or the more easy
to recognize and develop the potential intimacy. There are other characteristics
of Affinity that are very important in successful intimate relationships. For
instance, similar cultural backgrounds and interests, and approximate equality
in age, education, and intelligence are all significant. We will not discuss
these since they are not part of the personality system. There are two types of
Affinity factors in the personality system: Similarity and Polarity. The
Similarity factors provide common bases for relating in True Personality. The
Polarity factors provide attractions in True Personality. Both of these are
strong enough to help overcome barriers to intimacy created by our garbage. We
will discuss Polarity at length because it is the more significant type of
In previous divisions we saw how Polarity
worked to create love and Agape with the Positive and Negative Poles and with
complementary Traits and Centers. Now we see how it works with relationships.
There is a strong attraction between the Polar opposites. Two people often
experience the pull of the Polarities in True Personality as the potential for
intimacy. The more of these Polarities that exist between two people, the
greater the potential for intimacy, other things being equal.
Most people instinctively seek relationships
with the opposite gender that are challenging, stimulating and interesting.
There has to be some "hook" that grabs both of the people, or there
has to be some "issue" for the two to work through. The more different
the two people — the greater the Polarity — in the hook or issue, the more
they learn from the situation. This is fine when both have some Clarity and
healthy issues and hooks are involved, but often this is a "sick" hook
or issue and the two play out some game that causes them grief. The Polarities
are healthy hooks involving healthy issues. With them one can experience less
garbage and more bliss.
Difficulties arise when Polarity factors create
a strong attraction, but other factors create a strong repulsion. A typical
example is that you strongly attracted to a person sexually, but the person has
personality traits that are equally repulsive. It is of course frustrating when
it happens the other way around also — attractive personality but not
attractive physically. It is this sort of thing that causes us to examine
ourselves and our values. What value will we choose? This is another type of
Polarity, and not a very pleasant one. Nevertheless, we learn from it — who
are we and who are we not.
The Polarities that we will discuss are:
gender, Role, Casting, Overleaves, and Bodytype. The more of these Polarities
you have operating in the relationship, the greater the potential for intimacy
or the more intense the intimacy you can achieve, other factors being equal.
There is a "chemistry" in relationships. The psychology of Polarities
defines some of the principles of this chemistry. Understanding and applying it
is a major factor in achieving intimacy once you have achieved some Clarity.
In most cases, we expect and achieve the most
intimacy in an enduring sexual relationship. The Polarity that exists between
male and female is responsible for this. Sexuality is a powerful force of
attraction, and it includes a lot more than the urge to copulate. Doing sex is
just one expression of intimacy with the other half of the gender Polarity.
However, when the only purpose of the sex act is to alleviate horniness, then
the other aspects of gender Polarity go unsatisfied, and full intimacy is not
realized. The sex act can lead to transcendent experiences that unite the
partners in love and Agape. This happens when intimacy is present in all aspects
of male/female Polarity — philosophical, mental, spiritual, emotional,
behavioral, and somatic. This was mentioned in the section on Tantric sex.
There is a factor of Polarity within the gender
Polarity that figures prominently in achieving intimacy. That is the spectrum of
masculinity and femininity. There are people (male and female) at both extremes,
and there are people in the androgynous middle. If a man is androgynous, he will
probably prefer a woman at the feminine extreme. This will Polarize what
masculinity he has. If a woman is androgynous, she will probably prefer a man at
the masculine extreme. This will Polarize what femininity she has. The wider the
spread in Polarity between the two, the stronger is the attraction and the more
likely is the possibility of achieving intimacy with the help of this factor.
Gender Polarity is such a strong factor that it
often brings and holds together two people who can be no more than
"intimate" with each other. The following Polarity factors provide
bases for true intimacy, whether or not gender Polarity is present.
ROLE AND CASTING POLARITY
You have probably heard it said that opposites
attract, when it comes to intimate relationships. We seem instinctively to seek
out people who are our "missing half". Polarity functions in the Roles
and Casting as well as in the sexes, and this accounts for some of this
attraction of opposites.
There is the pairing of the complementary
opposites of Sage with Artisan, Priest with Server and King with Warrior. The
Neutral Role, Scholar, is not paired. These Role pairings attract each other and
form complementary dyads in a way not unlike the pairing of male and female.
That is why, if you are seeking an intimate relationship, it works well to find
a person of the opposite Role as well as of the opposite gender. There is a type
of excitation that occurs between people of opposite Roles. For Sages and
Artisans it is primarily a mental excitation — involving thoughts. For Priests
and Servers it is primarily affective excitement — involving mood. For Kings
and Warriors it is primarily physical excitement — involving action.
Everything discussed above about Role is also
true of the Casting factors of Entity, Cadence and Position. They are almost as
strong a determinant of personality as Role is, although they function in a
different way. Refer to the section on Casting to refresh your memory. To a
large extent, the Role and Casting Aspects are all interchangeable in terms of
this interaction. For instance, a person in the Third ("Artisan")
Cadence or Position is very much like a person who is a Artisan in Role. This
person will fulfill polarity with a Sage almost as well as an actual Sage.
Recall that all the Traits on the personality
chart are called "Overleaves" except the Role and the three Casting
numbers. All the Overleaves except those in the neutral Assimilation Process
(Equilibrium, Observation, Stubbornness, Pragmatist, Instinctive, Fourth) have
Complementary opposites, just as the Roles do. Acceptance is obviously the
opposite of Rejection, and Arrogance is obviously the opposite of
Self-deprecation. So it goes for the twenty-one pairs of Polar Overleaves. The
interaction between Overleaves requires more explanation than between Roles
alone. This is discussed following the next section.
In almost all relationships there is an element
of Bodytype attraction, compatibility or repulsion present. Either you feel
comfortable in the presence of another person's body or you don't. Of course,
this is especially important in sexual and other intimate relationships. (Bodytype
attraction is not the same thing as sexual attraction.) It is much easier to
become intimate with a person where Bodytype attraction or compatibility exists.
If it does not exist, then other factors of attraction must function in its
place or an intimate relationship will not likely develop. Most people are aware
that they find certain Bodytypes attractive, but are not sure just why. The
reason is, as with the factors mentioned above, there is a Polarity here. The
reaction is automatic — according to the laws of nature, not choice, just like
sexual attraction. There are three pairs of opposites and a neutral, as with the
personality Traits. They interact with Identicality, Complementarity, and
Incompatibility just as the Overleaves do, as we will see in the next section.
We will examine the seven Bodytypes as given in
the teaching of Gurdjieff. These types are named after the seven visible planets
— Sun, Mercury, Venus, Moon, Mars, Jupiter, and Saturn — with
characteristics taken from the deities of Roman mythology. Few people are a pure
Bodytype. Most people will combine various percentages of two or three of these
Bodytypes. I am about 70% Mercurial and 30% Martial, for instance. The
designations in parentheses after the names of the Bodytypes refer to the
"Dimension" the Bodytype is in (see introduction to the personality
chart), and its Polarity. For instance, (2D+) is two-dimensional positive. It is
paired with 2D-, of course.
MARTIAL (1D-): Martials are naturally muscular,
or at least athletic and sinewy, whether male or female. They are built for
action and toughness. They are brimming with energy. The shoulders are broad,
the hips narrow, and the chest deep. The face is mannish or womanish rather than
boyish or girlish. The opposite type is:
JOVIAL (1D+): At whatever height, Jovials are
thick and stout, if not overweight. The waist is large, the limbs fleshy, the
neck short. They are not muscular in the way that Martials are, but they are
built for action.
LUNAR (2D-): Lunars tend to be short to medium
in stature with small bones. They are rounded and fleshy in form, but not
necessarily obese. They have pale or luminous skin and a round face. hair is
slight. The opposite type is:
SOLAR (2D+): Solars have refined and delicate
features on a slight, childlike frame, perhaps even frail. Often their skin is
luminous, or radiant, as if they shine with an internal glow of light.
MERCURIAL (3D-): The Mercurial is slender of
build and slight of bone, whatever the height. The facial appearance is usually
girlish or boyish rather than womanish or mannish. They are built not for action
or inspiration, but for thought. Hand-eye coordination is good. They are
skillful at whatever they do. The opposite type is:
VENUSIAN (3D+): Venusians are physically
attractive whether male or female. Female Venusians are beautiful, and the males
are pretty too, with thick hair and large dark eyes and dark skin, and with
well-proportioned bodies and faces.
SATURNIAN (PD=): Saturnians are medium to tall
in stature, large boned with a large frame, but not overweight. Their faces are
bony and angular also. This is the Neutral type.
Notice that in the above Bodytypes, the Action
and the Neutral types (Martial, Saturnian and Jovial) are better suited for a
male according to our cultural stereotypes, and the Inspiration and Expression
types (Lunar, Solar, Venusian and Mercurial) are better suited for a female.
So what do you do with this information? First,
figure out what type or mix of types you are. Then review the romantic and other
close relationships you have had. You will probably discover that the most
satisfying to your body was the opposite Bodytype. The most fulfilling physical
relationship for me was with my exact Polar opposite, a Jovial-Venusian type. I
could not believe that Bodytype could have such enjoyable effects. There were
thrills. There were comforts. We could not get enough of each other's bodies.
However, I do have a few words of caution. Do not mistake the urge to merge
complementary Bodytypes with the urge to merge your entire being. Bodytype
attraction facilitates intimacy between bodies, and it might facilitate intimacy
between minds and hearts, but not necessarily.
So then, how do these Role, Casting, Overleaf
and Bodytype Polarities interact in relationships? We all know we get along with
some people, and others we don't, but do we really know why? There are often
reasons in False Personality — "intimate" relationships — but we
will not discuss them. Here we only discuss how the Traits on the chart —
factors in True Personality — work with each other in intimate relationships.
There are eight basic Trait interaction types. The first seven given below do
not apply to Maturation (Level and Age). Maturation is therefore considered
separately. Any two people in a relationship may have several of these eight
types operating. An "S" in parentheses indicates the Affinity type of
Similarity, and "P" indicates Polarity.
IDENTICALITY (S): This is when two people have
the same Trait (or Traits). Obviously this provides much Affinity. Interactions
motivated by the Identical Trait are comfortable and pleasant. Such transactions
are relatively effortless because there is neither attraction nor repulsion at
work. This is one of the most enjoyable interaction types, but there are two
potential problems. If the two people are in the Negative Pole of the Trait,
this will exaggerate the negativity. Also, if there are too many Identical
Traits, the relationship may become stagnant, since it lacks dynamism.
COMPLEMENTARITY (P): This is when two people
have Traits in the same Aspect but in opposite Processes, such as Dominance and
Submission, or Arrogance and Self-deprecation. People attract people who have
the Complementary Trait or Traits. They sense that the other is their missing
half. Indeed, the dynamic tension here is like the attraction between male and
female. The problem is, in spite of the attraction, there cannot be a
reconciliation of the two. This makes Complementarity difficult to deal with
until both learn their proper place and give each other space. Complementarity
can also help you stay in the Positive Pole of your Trait as we saw in the
section on Positive and Negative Poles. This is the second most intimate
interaction type. Recall the discussion in a previous division about using
Complementary traits to help each other stay in the Positive Poles.
RAPPORT (P): This is when two people have
Traits in the same Process but in opposite Aspects, such as Rejection and
Caution, or Stubbornness and Scholar, or Realist and Moving. People attract
people who have Traits in Rapport with theirs. There is a positive feedback
between the two. Interactions are agreeable and harmonious. Rapport has the
advantage that it is dynamic like Complementarity, but it lacks the degree of
stress of Complementarity. Rapport is therefore stimulating and fulfilling
without contradiction. It is the most intimate interaction type. A problem to
watch out for is the potential that the Negative Poles of the two Traits will
exacerbate each other.
COMPATIBILITY (A): This is when two people have
Traits in the same Process but not in Rapport, such as Rejection and Skeptic, or
Stubbornness and Observation, or Realist and Impatience. The interaction is
similar to Rapport in that there is attraction and harmony, but it is not as
strong as Rapport because they are not in the same Aspect Dimension. People with
Compatible Traits are on the same "wavelength" or
"vibration" in the areas of life covered by their Compatible Traits.
This Affinity is enjoyable and comforting, with no significant drawbacks.
OPPOSITION (P): This is when two people have
Traits in opposite corners of the groups of four Traits, such as Priest and
Self-deprecation, or Dominance and Perseverance. People with Traits in
Opposition are both attracted and repelled by each other. There is attraction in
that there is interaction between two people with Opposing Traits, but there is
repulsion in that the two Traits are antagonistic to each other. Between some
people this produces a "love/hate" relationship. The best that can
come of Opposition is to let the contrast purify or define yourself. The worst
outcome of Opposition is the destruction of the relationship.
INCOMPATIBILITY: This is when two people have
Traits of the same Dimension, either in Process or Aspect, but not both.
Examples are Priest and Impatience, or Priest and Reduction, or Priest and Sage.
Because they share a Dimension, there is significant interaction, but it is of
an inharmonious type since another Dimension is not shared. Interactions between
such Traits produce misunderstandings. They are uncomfortable and unsatisfying,
sometimes repulsive. There is no benefit to Incompatibility other than learning
tolerance. There is no intimacy here.
INDIFFERENCE: This is when two people have
Traits that are neither in the same Process nor Aspect Dimension. It covers all
interactions not covered above. About half the Traits are Indifferent to each
other. Examples are Aggression and Artisan, or Acceptance and Stoic. There is no
significant interaction between such Traits, either of attraction or repulsion.
They are neutral or meaningless to each other. There is no intimacy here.
MATURATION (S): Maturation (Level and Age) is
much like chronological maturity in that the closer two people are, the better
they understand each other, and the more similar their perceptions will be.
Younger Maturation people cannot understand the perceptions and values of older
Maturation people — they find them incomprehensible, or even
"crazy". Older Maturation people perceive younger Maturation people as
simple-minded, immature, or even foolish. People are uncomfortable or bored with
those not of their Age — the further the separation in time, the worse the
situation. The closer two people are in Maturation, the more they have in
common, and the more similar are their behaviors, beliefs, and values. (Level
has about one quarter to one third of the force that Age has.) This is a huge
factor in achieving intimacy.
For those who have interest, I have a
twenty-five page exposition on these Trait interactions. Some brief comments
will do for now. Generally speaking, the more two people have of transaction
types Identicality, Complementarity, Rapport and Compatibility, and the closer
the Level and Age, the greater the potential for intimacy. Dynamic Polarity
types such as Complementarity and Rapport are most conducive to intense
interpersonal involvement. Identicality is most conducive to comfortable
relationships and harmonious work on outer projects. Ideally an intimate
relationship will have a little Identicality to make it comfortable, a little
Rapport and Complementarity to make it dynamic, and a little Opposition to make
MEANINGFUL TRANSACTION INDEX
There are many things that determine how
"meaningful" a relationship will be, but I have found that the Traits
of the two people have a lot to do with it. You can determine roughly how
"meaningful" a relationship will be in terms of the Traits by counting
how many "meaningful transaction" cases (Identicality, Complementarity,
Rapport, and Opposition) occur between the Traits of the two people. Here are
Delineation, Representation and Formation count
as Dimensional pairs, so they have the potential for all four meaningful
transaction types. Level and Age are not a Dimensional Pair, and they have
potential for Identicality only. Entity, Cadence and Position are a Dimensional
triad, and they have potential for Identicality, Rapport and Complementarity,
but not Opposition. For simplicity's sake, count only the primary and secondary
Features and Centers. For body types, count instances of Identicality and
Complementarity. Add up the total quantity of these four cases, then diminish
the total of above cases by 1/6 for each Age that separates the two people.
Further diminish the total by 1/8 for each Level that separates the two people.
I call the result the "Meaningful Transaction Index", or MTI.
On average you can expect to have an MTI of
about 3 or 4 with another person. This is not very much and it does not make for
a very meaningful or intimate relationship. Fewer than this and you will find
the relationship even less than normally meaningful, other things being equal.
If the MTI exceeds 5, then the relationship becomes significantly meaningful. An
MTI of 7 is very meaningful, and 9 is extremely so. I have not experienced an
MTI greater than 11. The maximum possible is 26.
All the above may seem kind of silly and
complicated, and generally speaking it is, since most people size up other
people rather quickly and they know how meaningful the relationship is without
all this mathematics. The reason I bring it up is to emphasize that the higher
the MTI the easier it is to find intimacy, other things being equal. People with
some Clarity can determine quickly and easily how intimate a relationship can be
without knowing about all these transaction types. However, people at the
beginning of the Clarification process could perhaps use some help in what to
look for. The more of the favorable transactions there are between two people,
the more "transparent" are the personalities, False and True. In other
words, with high Affinity (Similarity and Polarity), there are few personality
differences to keep two people from interacting easily and naturally with each
other. Thus it becomes easier to recognize intimacy and Intimacy, other things
being equal. Knowing this, you can wittingly be on the alert for such
relationships if you like. I remind you: as Clarity increases, the importance of
Affinity in achieving intimacy decreases.
FULLNESS AND EMPTINESS
It is satisfying to the personal self to have a
mate or lover who is intellectually, emotionally, and sexually attractive —
these are fulfilling to the Positive Poles of the lower Centers. One can then
elevate the relationship by experiencing the higher Centers together. However,
many people are driven to seek "intimate" relationships by the
Negative Poles of the three lower Centers — boredom, loneliness, and horniness
— and by other negative drives in False Personality. They believe the other
person will fill the emptiness. They approach the relationship from need, and
hope to find someone to fulfill the need. Other people seek "intimacy"
as a reaction to a feeling of alienation. They are polarized toward strangeness,
so they seek a companion to give them the sense of belonging that they otherwise
lack. Such people often do find someone to play their game, and this type
relationship is being called "codependency" these days. This is sick.
I want to emphasize that this is not the same thing as experiencing intimacy
with the other half of one's Polarity, which is a positive and healthy thing.
This negative approach leads to much suffering
and disappointment. There is an energy drain in dealing with needy negativity
proportional to the amount of garbage in both parties. If we live an intimate
relationship from a positive position of fullness, we are energized. That energy
is an expression of the higher Centers, the Positive Poles of our Traits, and of
Clarity. Healthy intimacy exists not in two people with certain specifications
to fill their lacks but by both being whole and self-contained. Without Clarity
we will always be dissatisfied with a mate or a lover or anybody else because
they will never be just right.
An exaggerated expression of the needy lover is
their romantic fantasy about meeting a "Soul mate" who will exactly
fill all the emptiness. There may or may not be such a person for us. We don't
know. They might or might not fill our emptiness, even if we meet them. If we
lack Clarity, we may not perceive or understand intimacy when we encounter it.
What do we do? In the intimacy achieved through Clarity there is happiness
regardless of any Soul kinship. The principle is this, that we cannot find
intimacy with others until we first find intimacy within ourselves — Clarity.
We must be able to maintain Clarity fairly consistently, or we will likely screw
up our intimate relationships, whatever the Affinity or soul kinship may be.
People who lack Clarity pursue not real intimacy with those close to them, but
manipulation to get what they "need". The more Clarity we achieve, the
more these "needs" transmute to positive drives. Then we will
recognize intimacy and value it above all other considerations. When we perceive
intimacy with someone, we can choose to follow wherever it leads without
attachment, distraction, expectation, or specification.
We will know we are doing it wrong if it seems
You have read that the purpose of this
spiritual path is to increase the ability of the personal self to express love
and experience Agape. You have read that you can also become more conscious,
self-aware and free by following this path. You have read that the path is to
reveal the transpersonal self by dumping the garbage carried by the personal
self, and to experience the higher Centers in ourselves and in our
relationships. CONTACT WITH ESSENCE IS LOVE. LOVE IS OBSCURED BY FEAR AND
ILLUSION AND IGNORANCE. THE GOAL OF ESSENCE IS BLISS. BLISS IS ACHIEVED THROUGH
TRUE INTIMACY WITH SELF AND OTHER. TRUE INTIMACY IS ACHIEVED IN THE HIGHER
CENTERS. This is the essence of this spiritual path.
One final point to be made is that this
spiritual path serves to disconnect our personal happiness and fulfillment from
dependence on external circumstances. The personal self must realize that
happiness and contentment is entirely an internal state. Happiness is not
determined by the crystal on the mantle or around the neck or under the pillow,
or by what planet is in what house in what sign, or by what tarot card the
psychic reader turns up. Nor is happiness determined by how much money there is
in the bank account, or by what the employer does, or by what car is parked in
the driveway, or by what person shares the bed, or by which toothpaste is used.
We have the power of happiness within ourselves — Essence. Essence is ever
waiting for us to acknowledge it and invite it in.
Phil Wittmeyer is a longtime Michael student and scholar of the teachings.
He can be reached at:
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