The Impatience Chief Feature
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- Positive Traits:
Audacious, Bold, Brassy, Cuts in Front of the Line, Daring, Driven Toward the Finish
Line, Foolhardy, Nervy, Takes Risks
- Negative Traits:
Agitated, Angered, Annoyed, Ants in Pants, Fear of Missing Out, Hurried, Impetuous,
Intolerant, Irritated, Pressured, Pushy, Rash, Snappy, Tantrum-Throwing, Testy, Unwilling to
Impatience is the self-image of the "born winner",
the successful person who cannot stand to fail. He may rise early in the morning
so he can get more done each day. Things never happen fast enough to suit him.
Time moves too slow to suit him: the future does not arrive soon enough. He
constantly tries to pack more activity into the allotted time than can possibly
be done. Or he does not allot enough time for the things that need to be done.
This often makes him late for things rather than early, as one might expect from
an Impatient person. He does not like to wait for things, so may do something
before adequate preparations have been made. He would rather buy something on
credit, for instance, rather than wait till he has the money saved. He gets
upset if things do not happen soon enough. When he talks, he is brief, curt,
abrupt, hasty, and presumptuous. Often he interrupts the conversation of others
rather than waiting his proper turn. There is a crudeness and lack of politeness
A person with this Feature sees himself as an originator of
action. He wants to be there at the beginning of events. He is always in a rush
to get things going or make things happen.
Impatience is the complementary opposite of the Martyr.
Whereas the Martyr gives up and gives in easily, the Impatient one is not a
quitter — at least not in the same sense as the Martyr. The Impatient one may
want to move on to the next project before he completes the last one, but it is
not because he surrenders or is discouraged. Unlike the Martyr, the Impatient
one demands respect — he has an excessive amount of self-respect in fact, and
is likely to push others around rather than let himself be pushed around like
the Martyr. Martyrs regard themselves as helpless, weak, and defeated, but
Impatient people will almost never admit they need help — it would be a sign
of defeat or weakness.
The underlying fear that drives this Feature is the fear of
missing out on something — something more important than what is presently
being done. This can be difficult for the person, as they go from activity to
project to activity in a constant state of restlessness and dissatisfaction.
This can apply to relationships as well as activities and projects. Constant
change is seen as better than stagnation. Often such a person will walk away
from you before you have finished talking to him. The way to overcome this is to
contemplate and apply the Positive Pole of Martyrdom, which is +Selflessness.
Rather than asserting the ego against the will of others or against
circumstances, let go of personal power and surrender to the situation.
Impatience is the counterpart of the King Role — the
Impatient one sees himself as a King, a leader of men and a master of
situations. He has the self-image of a King, but without the substance, and this
can get him into trouble if he takes his presumed ability to command beyond his
actual capacity. He will tend to just push others around rather than lead them.
The Impatient one would do well to watch out for this factor.
Positive Pole (Audacity)
The Positive Pole is +Audacity. There is an over-boldness
here, a lack of proper self-regulation. He is rash and impetuous as he drives
headlong forward. The person is always looking to the future and trying to get a
jump on it, rather than working with his present resources. His expectations are
generally ahead of reality, and he wants to catch up to it as quickly as he can.
He anticipates success in whatever he does. This is the self-image of the
overachiever. A person with this Feature sees himself as a born winner, as
strong and successful. He will not admit inadequacies in himself, but makes
excuses for any failures he has.
Negative Pole (Intolerance)
In the Negative Pole of -Intolerance, the person is easily
irritated at people and circumstances. Others consider him hot-tempered. As a
child he may throw "temper tantrums", and continue similar behavior
into adulthood. In sports — or the real games of life — he is a poor loser.
He is prone to rages and furies with little provocation. People around him have
to be very careful not to upset him because he is so easily angered, and he
overreacts to minor inconveniences or petty failures. When his expectations are
not fulfilled, he become cross, petulant, acerbic, and acrimonious. He gets
angry when others walk on him or when he thinks his rights are violated. At the
extreme, a person in -Intolerance will persecute others — make Martyrs of
them, and of course the most extreme form of this is actual murder.
The advantage of this Feature is that it makes the person
success-oriented. He is a self-starter, not slack in activity, and he does not
hold himself back. Others tend to perceive him in a positive and respectful way,
as having leadership ability, and a certain dash and daring. The disadvantage is
that he may move from project to project, dabbling here and there without
mastering anything. He may also offend other, slower, people because he will
tend to run over them.
The primary lesson to be learned from the two Features of
Martyrdom and Impatience is the issue of self-respect. The Martyr does not have
enough of it and the Impatient one has too much. All are equally worthy of the
same respect. In the real game of life, there are neither winners nor losers,
only players who are learning to play. There is neither success nor failure,
only experience. There is neither too much time nor too little, just enough to
do what is to be done and at the proper pace.
-- Phil Wittmeyer
While martyrdom feels it has to earn its entitlement, impatience has an inflated
sense of entitlement. Its positive pole, "audacity," is the feeling of deserving
to cut in front of the line, so to speak, and the negative pole, "intolerance,"
is particularly obnoxious about pushing others out of the way. It is not about
accumulating, like greed, but having experiences now; again, the action axis is
about doing. If someone combines impatience and martyrdom, he feels like an
impatient martyr. Someone who leans more to the impatient side might view
himself as suffering because of he is missing out, whereas one who tilts more
toward martyrdom might suffer testily rather than silently; impatience is
characterized by testiness.
Each of the obstacles has something in common with the role it shares its
position with on the Michael chart.
Impatience is on the cardinal side of the action axis. It is in the same
position as the role of king. In the negative pole, "tyranny," kings carry a
sense of entitlement similar to impatience. Kings have a commanding presence
that might remind you of audacity--it is expansive in an action way. The
cardinal (expansive) obstacles not only expand but violate; they trespass
boundaries. Since the ordinal ones contract, they harm self rather than others.
Neither is better or worse.
In most cases, the chief obstacle originates from unresolved issues from past
lives. However, when you incarnate with the intention of further dealing with
them, you may choose a childhood situation that recreates their circumstances.
In any case, one tends to interpret one's childhood experiences to confirm the
view of the world formed earlier.
If you are in impatience, you might be coming off a series of lifetimes in which
you were frustrated by not being able to do the things you wanted to accomplish.
Maybe your friends got to go to sea and you had to stay home and help out with
the farm, so you started to think of yourself as always missing out. Therefore,
in your childhood in this lifetime, what others might interpret as ordinary
limitations might, to you, seem like deprivations. You chomped at the bit to do
things you were held back from, whereas others might be more accepting of the
fact that one cannot do everything.
-- Shepherd Hoodwin
Could we have some general comments on impatience?
The chief feature of impatience override’s pleasure often by driving the soul to
rush rather than to just be with the situation. The proverb “haste makes waste”
was first uttered by someone observing a soul in impatience. You burn calories
I observed impatience waiting in a long gas line today.
We would say that the queues are very good for this in spite of the
inconvenience. they do allow one to photograph oneself in chief feature. This is
one way — relaxation forced, of course, is another.
I’d like a comment from Michael on how best to learn or deal with impatience.
The best way to counteract the chief feature of impatience is to deliberately
expose yourself to exasperating situations and then photograph the feelings
around the impatience. Usually you will find that the reaction is habit rather
than emotion, and amounts to a tape loop.
-- Michael Teachings Transcripts
page | Stubbornness
Phil Wittmeyer is a longtime Michael student and scholar of the teachings.
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